IS IT WORTH IT?

Really is being someone’s wife and someone’s mother really worth the  full investment of a life? Does it take preparation of skills, concentration of energies, and the commitment of both to keep a happy home? Can she even have a significant input , contribution into her husband and her children now too? and here too one will reap what one  has sown here as well.. 

 

Firstly still many ” Women have been liberated right out of the genuine freedom they enjoyed for centuries to oversee the home, rear the children, and pursue personal creativity; they have been brainwashed to believe that the absence of a titled, payroll occupation enslaves a woman to failure, boredom, and imprisonment within the confines of home. “ Men and even pastors  too have made these same errors, seduced  that a career advancement is more important over meeting all the needs of your family. Realize still   the important role a woman plays in the development of a Christian home. A woman who has God rightfully as the center of her life will prove to be the most valuable asset, influence  to her husband, her children and many others too. In Proverbs 31, Solomon highlights the life of a “worthy woman.” He sets forth a number of important roles for such a woman including being a good woman, a good wife, a good mother, and a good neighbor. By displaying such roles, a worthy woman will not only benefit those around her, but she will also bring to herself and to her own husband a good name..

 

If a person has never known real   love   then it is a hard for them next even to show it to their spouse or children. As per Titus 2:4-5. A the young women are to be taught how to love their husbands and their children! This indicates that we need to be taught to love.. How many got this teaching these days? Very few.. Titus 2 also  states that the young wives are to be self-controlled and pure. Self-control is one of the fruit  of the Holy Spirit that few people have yet; Also purity springs from the  love for the Lord Jesus Christ as  even Philippians 1 makes it  clear. And 1 John 4:19 We love him, because he first loved us. 

1 Cor. 13:4-8 also now tells us: 'Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices in the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails

 

Most Women today are  also still so disconnected from maturity, decency that they marry or move in with the richest, or the  most handsome man they can find, despite his suspected, quite flawed personality,  character,  and they will sooner or later weep for it too. It is thus all not surprising when they spend so much time in the pigs pen instead of eating from the Word of God, Jesus Christ and the Bible.. 2 Corinthians 5: 17 Therefore if any man be in Christ, he is a new creature: old things are passed away; behold, all things are become new.

 

 'Everyone who believes that Jesus is the Christ is born of God, and everyone who loves the Father loves His child as well. This is how we know that we love the children of God: by loving God and carrying out His commands. And His commands are not burdensome, for everyone born of God overcomes the world. This is the victory that overcomes the world, even our faith. Who is he that overcomes the world? Only he that believes that Jesus is the Son of God.' (1 John 5:1-5). Christ is the strength of the believer's life, He has given us His Holy Spirit as our Counsellor. (See John 16: 5-15)

 

'I lift up my eyes to the hills - where does my help come from? My help comes from the Lord, the Maker of heaven and earth.' (Psalm 121:1-2)

 

It's sadly is too common today even for a young Christian wife to be seduced, to rebel against home life as her primary ministry,  for the false  romance, a career, an equitable marriage  and anything else that rather tends to lead to vanity and bitterness.  

 

If you  continue to willfully, continually disobey your husband "you are indirectly rebelling against God shaking your fist at God. You even have no faith in the will of God being attained for your life nor will it be.. the best you can hope for or expect next thus  is the painful divorce.. 

 

Instead of falsely dwelling on what you think you do deserve, you should be thinking that you are here  to serve the Lord Jesus Christ graciously, even as to how ever He chooses. Turn from the too often still wrong thinking about your spouse to the rather right thinking about God and your responsibility to honor and worship Him even in your home, marriage, family.

 

Titus 2: 1    But speak thou the things which become sound doctrine:2 That the aged men be sober, grave, temperate, sound in faith, in charity, in patience.3 The aged women likewise, that they be in behaviour as becometh holiness, not false accusers, not given to much wine, teachers of good things;4 That they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children,5 To be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed.6 Young men likewise exhort to be sober minded.7 In all things shewing thyself a pattern of good works: in doctrine shewing uncorruptness, gravity, sincerity,8 Sound speech, that cannot be condemned; that he that is of the contrary part may be ashamed, having no evil thing to say of you.9 Exhort servants to be obedient unto their own masters, and to please them well in all things; not answering again;10 Not purloining, but shewing all good fidelity; that they may adorn the doctrine of God our Saviour in all things.11 For the grace of God that bringeth salvation hath appeared to all men,12 Teaching us that, denying ungodliness and worldly lusts, we should live soberly, righteously, and godly, in this present world;13 Looking for that blessed hope, and the glorious appearing of the great God and our Saviour Jesus Christ;14 Who gave himself for us, that he might redeem us from all iniquity, and purify unto himself a peculiar people, zealous of good works.15 These things speak, and exhort, and rebuke with all authority. Let no man despise thee.

 

Now “Though feminism speaks of liberation, self-fulfillment, personal rights, and breaking down barriers, these phrases inevitably mean the opposite.  In fact, the opposite is true because a salaried job and titled position can inhibit a woman’s natural nesting instinct and maternity by inverting her priorities so that failures almost inevitably come in the rearing of her own children and the building of an earthly shelter for those whom she loves most. The mundane accompanies every task, however high paying or prestigious the job, so that escape from boredom is not inevitable just because your workplace is not at home. And where is the time for personal creativity when you are in essence working two jobs-one at home and one away?”  Jesus own  words are very applicable and to the point here too.. Matthew 16:26 For what is a man profited, if he shall gain the whole world, and lose his own soul? or what shall a man give in exchange for his soul?

 

Perseverance is needed in marriage if we are to please God’s will for our life, our full happiness and fulfillment. . The present trend in the world at large is  to allow any difficulties, objections to become the cause for separation and divorce is very lamentable as in Malachi 2:16 we find these words: 'I hate divorce'.

 

"Wives, be submissive to your own husbands so that even if some husbands are disobedient to the word, they may be won without a word by the behavior of their wives, as they observe your chaste and respectful behavior. Your adornment must not be merely external—braiding the hair, and wearing gold jewelry, or putting on dresses; but let it be the hidden person of the heart, with the imperishable quality of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is precious in the sight of God."^[ (1 Peter 3:1-4)

 

Sadly still “ Too many women rush headlong into a career outside the home, determined to waste no time or effort on housework or baby-sitting but rather seeking to achieve position and means by directing all talents and energies toward non-home professional pursuits. It is true that many “perfect jobs” may come and go during the childrearing years, but only one will absolutely never come along again-the job of rearing your own children and allowing them the increasingly rare opportunity to grow up at home.  “ and you will be shocked how quickly your kids will grow up without you and leave home for good to be on their own. will not any longer desire you, will have no need for you too.. And you will be retired and likely all alone next too..

 

“Homemaking is a career. Keeping the home is God’s assignment to the wife-even down to changing the sheets, doing the laundry, and scrubbing the floors. In Titus 2:3-5,  Paul admonishes the older women to teach the younger women, among other things, “to love their husbands and children, … to be busy at home” (oikourgous, Greek, literally “home-workers”). The home was once described as “… a place apart, a walled garden, in which certain virtues too easily crushed by modern life could be preserved,” and the mother in this home was described as “The Angel in the House.” A Gallup poll showed that more than eight out of ten respondents (82 percent) assigned top priority on an eleven-point scale to the importance of family life. Families, health, and self-respect all were rated as more important than the possession of material goods.” Some of these people learned these truths the hard way.. Secular materialism, wealth does not make one happy still in reality.. As any women, you also need not look out into the world for your role models but to the God  and to the Bible alone.. For many it will righfully mean a sacrifice of a career, that big new house, furnishings, that beautiful new car, and/or those great vacations. But what a small sacrifice to make for the ability to play an important role in the making of a happy and a godly home. The rewards will far exceed anything in this life too that we can imagine. That is why you should desire to be a good, godly woman, wife, and mother over all.

 

“  Homemaking, if pursued with energy, imagination, and skills, has as much challenge and opportunity, success and failure, growth and expansion, perks and incentives as any corporation, plus something no other position offers-working for people you love most and want to please the most!” It takes real  work, and personal laziness and fantasizing, unrealistic expectations will lead to serious failure even here.

 

Homemaking is stll the preparing of the meals,  washing the dishes, and the the clothes, vacuuming and cleaning the home , decorating the house, grocery shopping too,  getting the kids dressed, insuring they get to school and do their homework as well.. Sadly too many wives had not been prepared even  by their parents for this rile and need to learn some discipline  to do this work as well as it will not get done by itself.

 

“The New Testament, too, is clear in its emphasis on a woman’s needed and necessary energy and efficiency in managing her household ( Titus 2:5, 1 Tim 2:10, 5:24) 

When Jesus reprimanded Martha, He did not condemn the vital housework she was doing; neither did He decry the gracious hospitality extended to Himself (Jesus did not say only one thing is needful but pointed to the one thing Martha had omitted). He did admonish her not to be encumbered or burdened by her work to the exclusion of spiritual sustenance, which Mary had so faithfully sought  (Luke 10:36-42 ) 

One is never to neglect spiritual preparation-not even for the joy of serving others. The best way to make homemaking a joyous task is to offer it as unto the Lord; the only way to avoid the drudgery in such mundane tasks is to bathe the tasks with prayer and catch a vision of the divine challenge in making and nurturing a home. Brother Lawrence, a member of the barefoot Carmelite monks in Paris in the 1600s, set a worthy example: “Lord of all pots and pans and things … Make me a saint by getting meals and washing up the plates! … The time of business does not with me differ from the time of prayer, and in the noise and clatter of my kitchen … I possess God in as great tranquillity as if I were upon my knees at the blessed sacrament.””

 

For the fools who are falsely seduced away from their home responsibilities.. Yet God’s warning through the prophet Ezekiel could not be more timely:  And you took your sons and daughters whom you bore to me and sacrificed them as food to the idols… . Everyone who quotes proverbs will quote this proverb about you: “Like mother, like daughter.” You are a true daughter of your mother, who despised her husband and her children; and you are a true sister of your sisters, who despised their husbands and their children. (Ezekiel 16:20, 44-45).

 God gave us life, he gave us dominion over the earth and fellowship with him forever. But, in the wink of an eye, Adam and Eve chose to disobey a single command, essentially betraying the trust that God had placed into humanity. 

 

Now we all need to repent of our personal betrayal against God. We must first seek God with all of our heart, mind, soul and strength and his will and plan for out life, not rather our own. 

Luke 21:16, "And ye shall be betrayed both by parents, and brethren, and kinfolk, and friends; and some of you shall they cause to be put to death

 

People who place money and material items before God must pay close attention to the story of Apostle  Judas;

 

Note that the unacceptable sin of idolatry and  the sin of adultery are related in God's eyes.. the lust for material things and next sexual lust are al a part of the false lust of our  flesh.. which needs to be subdued.

 

Eze 6:8-9 (NIV) "...How I have been grieved by their adulterous hearts, which have turned away from me, and by their eyes, which have lusted after their idols. They will loathe themselves for the evil they have done and for all their detestable practices."

 

James 4:3-4 (Phi) You don't get what you want because you don't ask God for it. And when you do ask he doesn't give it to you, for you ask in quite the wrong spirit--you only want to satisfy your own desires. You are like unfaithful wives, never realizing that to be the world's lover means becoming the enemy of God! Anyone who chooses to be the world's friend is thereby making himself God's enemy

 

Col 3:5-6 (Jer) That is why you must kill everything in you that belongs only to earthly life: fornication, impurity, guilty passion, evil desires and especially greed, which is the same thing as worshipping a false god. All this sort of behavior makes God angry. (Eph 5:5)

 

Ex 20:3-4 (NIV) "You shall have no other gods before me. You shall not make for yourself an idol in the form of anything in heaven above or on the earth beneath or in the waters below."

 

Galatians 5:19 Now the works of the flesh are manifest, which are these; Adultery, fornication, uncleanness, lasciviousness ... (KJV)

 

Ephesians 5:3–5 But fornication, and all uncleanness, or covetousness, let it not be once named among you, as becometh saints; Neither filthiness, nor foolish talking, nor jesting, which are not convenient: but rather giving of thanks. For this ye know, that no whoremonger, nor unclean person, nor covetous man, who is an idolater, hath any inheritance in the kingdom of Christ and of God. (KJV)

 

1 Corinthians 6:9–10 Know ye not that the unrighteous shall not inherit the kingdom of God? Be not deceived: neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor effeminate, nor abusers of themselves with mankind, Nor thieves, nor covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor extortioners, shall inherit the kingdom of God. (KJV)

 

 Ezekiel 16:35-42, “Wherefore, O harlot, hear the word of the Lord. Thus saith the Lord God; Because thy filthiness was poured out and thy nakedness discovered through thy whoredoms with thy lovers, and with all the idols of thy abominations, and by the blood of thy children, which thou didst give unto them; Behold, therefore Iwill gather all thy lovers, with whom thou hast taken pleasure, and all them that thou hast loved, with all them that thou hast hated; I will even gather them round about against thee, and will discover thy nakedness unto them, that they may see all thy nakedness. And I will judge thee, as women that break wedlock and shed blood are judged; and I will give thee blood in fury and jealousy. And I will also give thee into their hand, and they shall throw down thine eminent place, and shall break down thy high places: they shall shall strip thee also of thy clothes, and shall take thy fair jewels, and leave thee naked and bare. They shall bring up a company against thee, and shall stone thee with stones, and thrust thee through with their swords. And they shall burn thine houses with fire, and execute judgments upon thee in the sight of many women: and I will cause thee to cease from playing the harlot, and thou shalt give no hire anymore. So I  will make my fury toward thee to rest, and my jealousy shall depart from thee, and I will be quiet, and will be no more angry.”

 

What if God asked you to give up all of your belongings and money in order to become a true disciple of Jesus? How would you respond? (see Mark 10:17-31).;

 

Proverbs 15:16 Better is little with the fear of the LORD than great treasure and trouble therewith. 17 Better is a dinner of herbs where love is, than a stalled ox and hatred therewith.

 

Proverbs 16:8 Better is a little with righteousness than great revenues without right.

 

16 How much better is it to get wisdom than gold! and to get understanding rather to be chosen than silver!

 

Proverbs 17:1 Better is a dry morsel, and quietness therewith, than an house full of sacrifices with strife.

 

Proverbs 19:1 Better is the poor that walketh in his integrity, than he that is perverse in his lips, and is a fool.

 

Proverbs 27:10 Thine own friend, and thy father's friend, forsake not; neither go into thy brother's house in the day of thy calamity: for better is a neighbour that is near than a brother far off.

 

Proverbs 28:6 Better is the poor that walketh in his uprightness, than he that is perverse in his ways, though he be rich.

 

Ecclesiastes 7:8 Better is the end of a thing than the beginning thereof: and the patient in spirit is better than the proud in spirit.

 

Song of Solomon 4:10 How fair is thy love, my sister, my spouse! how much better is thy love than wine! and the smell of thine ointments than all spices!

 

“Some women even claim to have a higher focus on serving God-putting the spread of gospel ahead of  the “family” While no one and nothing must come between a woman and her personal relationship to Christ (“But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well,” Matthew 6:33), neither does the Bible contain any admonition to place the work of the church ahead of her home responsibilities. When a woman has chosen the high calling of being a wife, her submission to her husband is “as to the Lord” (Ephesians 5:22). When she chooses the high calling of motherhood, “Sons are a heritage from the Lord, children a reward from him” (Psalm 127:3); this, too, is itself an offering to the Lord.” Also “ Teach them [God’s words] to your children, talking about them when you sit at home and when you walk along the road, when you lie down and when you get up… so that your days and the days of your children may be many in the land that the Lord swore to give your forefathers, as many as the days that the heavens are above the earth. (Deuteronomy 11:19, 21)”

 

Also still “ The wife was created by God to be her husband’s “helper” (ezer kenegdo, Hebrew, literally “a help like or corresponding to himself,” Genesis 2:18). There is nothing demeaning about being a helper. It is a challenging and rewarding responsibility. God Himself assumed that role on many occasions (Psalm 40:17, “You are my help and my deliverer; O my God, do not delay”; Hebrews 13:6, “So we say with confidence, ‘The Lord is my helper’”). This did not mean that the Lord was an inferior but spoke rather of His desire to meet the needs of those whom He loves with an everlasting and unconditional love. Through the ages some have held that women are inferior to men, but the attempt to attribute such an idea to Scripture is unthinkable.  “ They have been falsely seduced by the devil into a false pride of who they really are and what role they need to play. Accept him as a spiritual leader. Pray for your husband; Do not try to change him leave that to God to do it. Accept his relationship with his mom and do not be jealous of it, try to destroy it or compete with it..

Genesis 2:24-25: Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh. And the man and his wife were both naked and were not ashamed. 

1 Corinthians 7:3-5:The husband should give to his wife her conjugal rights, and likewise the wife to her husband. For the wife does not have authority over her own body, but the husband does. Likewise the husband does not have authority over his own body, but the wife does. Do not deprive one another, except perhaps by agreement for a limited time, that you may devote yourselves to prayer; but then come together again, so that Satan may not tempt you because of your lack of self-control.

It is also not the sex that still makes a marriage work, successful but your hard work and your love ..

“  When a godly wife is all she ought to be, she completes, complements, and extends her husband. Their joint ministry reaches beyond what either of them could do alone (Psalm 34:3; Ecclesiastes 4:9-12).” otherwise their marriage will become a real hell.. There still is great personal happiness, fulfillment, joy in a really happy, successful marriage and a really  great sorrow, pain in a failed one too.

Mark 4:19 And the cares of this world, and the deceitfulness of riches, and the lusts of other things entering in, choke the word, and it becometh unfruitful.

1 Timothy 6:9 But they that will be rich fall into temptation and a snare, and into many foolish and hurtful lusts, which drown men in destruction and perdition.

Romans 6: 12 Let not sin therefore reign in your mortal body, that ye should obey it in the lusts thereof.

 

Demons have been here since the beginning of human history.  The same demons that infiltrated the antediluvian civilization in the days of Noah are alive and active today.  They have infiltrated every area of life from childhood to adulthood, from play to marriage, from sports to work.  They EVEN DO falsely seek to destroy Marriage Culture,

 

 In 1 Corinthians 6 and 7, Paul reprimanded the Church, the Christian  strongly for their marital infidelity. 1 cor 6:1 9 Know ye not that the unrighteous shall not inherit the kingdom of God? Be not deceived: neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor effeminate, nor abusers of themselves with mankind,10 Nor thieves, nor covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor extortioners, shall inherit the kingdom of God.11 And such were some of you: but ye are washed, but ye are sanctified, but ye are justified in the name of the Lord Jesus, and by the Spirit of our God. 12    All things are lawful unto me, but all things are not expedient: all things are lawful for me, but I will not be brought under the power of any.13 Meats for the belly, and the belly for meats: but God shall destroy both it and them. Now the body is not for fornication, but for the Lord; and the Lord for the body.14 And God hath both raised up the Lord, and will also raise up us by his own power.15 Know ye not that your bodies are the members of Christ? shall I then take the members of Christ, and make them the members of an harlot? God forbid.16 What? know ye not that he which is joined to an harlot is one body? for two, saith he, shall be one flesh.17 But he that is joined unto the Lord is one spirit.18 Flee fornication. Every sin that a man doeth is without the body; but he that committeth fornication sinneth against his own body.19 What? know ye not that your body is the temple of the Holy Ghost which is in you, which ye have of God, and ye are not your own?20 For ye are bought with a price: therefore glorify God in your body, and in your spirit, which are God's.

Romans 1:24 Wherefore God also gave them up to uncleanness through the lusts of their own hearts, to dishonour their own bodies between themselves:

 

27 And likewise also the men, leaving the natural use of the woman, burned in their lust one toward another; men with men working that which is unseemly, and receiving in themselves that recompence of their error which was meet.

 

Romans 13:14 But put ye on the Lord Jesus Christ, and make not provision for the flesh, to fulfil the lusts thereof.

 

1 Corinthians 10:6 Now these things were our examples, to the intent we should not lust after evil things, as they also lusted.

 

Galatians 5:16 This I say then, Walk in the Spirit, and ye shall not fulfil the lust of the flesh.17 For the flesh lusteth against the Spirit, and the Spirit against the flesh: and these are contrary the one to the other: so that ye cannot do the things that ye would.

24 And they that are Christ's have crucified the flesh with the affections and lusts.

 

But there were also false prophets among the people, even as there will be false teachers among you, who will secretly bring in destructive heresies, even denying the Lord who bought them, and bring on themselves swift destruction.  And many will follow their destructive ways, because of whom the way of truth will be blasphemed. By covetousness they will exploit you with deceptive words; for a long time their judgment has not been idle, and their destruction does not slumber.  For if God did not spare the angels who sinned, but cast them down to hell and delivered them into chains of darkness, to be reserved for judgment;  and did not spare the ancient world, but saved Noah, one of eight people, a preacher of righteousness, bringing in the flood on the world of the ungodly;  and turning the cities of Sodom and Gomorrah into ashes, condemned them to destruction, making them an example to those who afterward would live ungodly;  and delivered righteous Lot, who was oppressed by the filthy conduct of the wicked  (for that righteous man, dwelling among them, tormented his righteous soul from day to day by seeing and hearing their lawless deeds)-  then the Lord knows how to deliver the godly out of temptations and to reserve the unjust under punishment for the day of judgment, 2 Peter 2:1-9

But I want to remind you, though you once knew this, that the Lord, having saved the people out of the land of Egypt, afterward destroyed those who did not believe. Jude 1:5
But if you are led by the Spirit, you are not under the law.  Now the works of the flesh are evident, which are: adultery, fornication, uncleanness, lewdness,  idolatry, sorcery, hatred, contentions, jealousies, outbursts of wrath, selfish ambitions, dissensions, heresies,  envy, murders, drunkenness, revelries, and the like; of which I tell you beforehand, just as I also told you in time past, that those who practice such things will not inherit the kingdom of God.  But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, longsuffering, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control. Against such there is no law.  And those who are Christ's have crucified the flesh with its passions and desires.  If we live in the Spirit, let us also walk in the Spirit. Galatians 5:18-25

 

And there followed another angel, saying, Fallen, fallen is Babylon the great, she who made all nations drink of the wine of the passion of her fornication. (Revelation 14:8)

and upon her forehead a name was written, a mystery, “BABYLON THE GREAT, THE MOTHER OF WHORES AND OF THE ABOMINATIONS OF THE EARTH.” (Revelation 17:5)

PS  Have also your own support system. Not with the devil and his cohorts, or your worldly bad friends but with God – Jesus Christ  himself.. There talk to him, share your insights and concerns with Him and also do  listen to his response as well!